Should I get an abortion? (details inside)?
January 22, 2012 by
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I am almost 5 weeks pregnant and have an appt for an abortion tomorrow. My fiance wants me to keep the baby but I am leaning towars a no and think this will be a bad decision if we keep it. Here’s the back story.
We’ve been together for 7 yrs, living together for 2 yrs. We fight ALL THE TIME .. I mean on a daily basis and cannot agree on anything. In fact, the time I found out i was pregnant we did not speak to eachother for 2 weeks an his response was “it’s not my baby” After he talked things over with HIS MOM (instead of me..) he decided that he wants us to have the baby. But even since then, we bhave fought at least 10 times (just like 4 day span). He is very aggressive and tempermental and he cannot have a calm discussion.. automatically screams, yells wont let me get a word in. I usually just ignore it and go to a different room – then he doesnt talk to me for a few days. Right before I found out about the pregnancy, the relationship was pretty much on its way out.
The other issue is that we are both unemployed – I lost my job a year ago an have not been able to find a new one. He lost his a month ago an since he is in banking, chances of finding a new job are slim so he is doing side construction jobs here an there. We barely can afford, mortgage an bills.
Yet another issue is that I am scheduled for double jaw surgery in 5-6 months time.
BTW, we are 25 and 28 yrs old.
Please, I need advice and if you are a crazy anti-choice person, please spare me your comments.
he also smokes weed every night
adoption out of the question. and we did use protection – i guess it failed us once in the 7 yrs.
yeeeeehhhaaaawwwwwwwww………. The situations we put ourselves in.
if you dont want to get pregnant, then protect yourself. you are an adult and married, you had to know there was a good chance it would happen.
It’s completely up to you, not strangers on the internet.
Have you considered adoption?
Why is adoption not an option? If you’re considering whether or not you should kill the baby… then you’re obviously considering carrying it full term. And since you don’t think you are ready for a child.. give it to somebody who is.
You’re the one who got pregnant, deal with it.
“crazy anti-choice person?” First of all if you are offensive to others you will get the same thing in return. Second of all there is a adoption option…Third of all as older as you get there is a bigger chance for the child to have a down syndrome. Finally…This is not the abortion section post this question in woman’s health because mommies to be do not need to hear about somobody killing a life. Think about those women with fertility problems. They would kill to be able to have a baby. Oh by the way you got reported =]
take responsabilitys for what YOU did do NOT kill that baby
just to let you know
All your answers are going to be by angry pregnant women
and women who try and get pregnant for a long time and cant
and for you to be selfish and abort that babys life is Horrible
You can get help from the state while you are pregnant
Have this baby and if you dont want it Put it up for adoption
Dont take the life of another Human
Its a load of crap There is NO excuse for killing a baby
because the state can help you
and a ton of familys would love to adopt
GET ON BIRTH CONTROL
USE CONDOMS
or done have sex next time
That way you dont consider Murder!!
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Why the hell is adoption out of the question NO IT IS NOT!!!!
Your a fucking PIG i HATE when people come on here and ask this shit!! and then say adoption is not an answer!! Fuck off bitch if you decide to kill that baby kill yourself after your done You selfish BITCH
idc all you can give me 1000000 thumbs down
she is married
grown and just being PLAIN selfish
IF YOU WHERE ON BC and USED a condom YOU WOULD NOT BE A MURDER
murderer
there is not 1 reason you gave me that would justify an abortion
bring the baby up alone
You can get benefits to support you and your baby
The surgery can be put off
This is your choice and its you that has to make the decision but asking this the night before the abortion tells me you are having second thoughts
Why why why did you let yourself fall pregnant when you not in the best situation to become a parent. Sorry but that was extremely irresponsible.
Lots of people make it work and you should try and make it work for the benefit of your baby. See a councellor, talk things out. Go out and find some jobs..they are out there, you just need to percervere. And he better kick his weed habit.
Do the RIGHT and responsible thing please. Don’t take the ‘easy’ way out. Abortion is permanent and it scars many women emotionally and physically for life. It can lead to infertility issues too.
Either make it work, or the other option is adoption.
personally i think abortions are wrong. its not the babies fault that its been created. i understand that your in a bad relationship and are both unemployed but thats not an excuse to kill a innocent life. i suggest you give the baby up for adoption.
And how is it the babies fault?
Sorry but you sound selfish.. it sounds all about YOU.
There is another life you need to think of.
I would keep the baby. From time to time all couples go through hard times. You might later down the line in life wonder how it would be if you would have kept your baby. Even though your life isn’t going the way you want it to right now, your little baby is a blessing. Don’t punish your baby because of how your relationship is going.
Please don’t abort the baby ultimately its up to you all I can do is give you my opinion and my opinion is that its murder that little baby deserves a chance to live and shouldn’t be put in your hands to decide its fate if anything i suggest that if your not ready to be a mommy then give the baby up for adoption… if you are worried that you might not be able to do it in the end because its seems to hard and that’s why you would want to kill it now then there is the option for an open adoption which means someone else will be taking care of that precious baby but you would receive photos of it and also have the ability to see it whenever you wanted to
this is what you would be doing to your little baby
http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_yJE834OtsY8/STIlUAbl7LI/AAAAAAAAAm4/zLH9emEaPTk/s400/abortion-08-01.jpg
really sick and screwed up…. give that baby a chance
I wouldn’t personally, but I have people who would be there for me and help me with the tough times ahead, i.e. leaving the boyfriend, keeping me afloat financially while unemployed and pregnant, helping me raise that baby until I’m able to stand on my own two feet and provide for him/her. Are you close to your family?
It’s not the baby’s fault the father is an @$$ and shouldn’t be terminated for his attitude towards you, but you know what you need to do for yourself. If you think aborting is the best thing to do and you wouldn’t be sorry about doing it, then by all means go for it.
Your relationship is already down the toilet so regardless of whether you abort or keep the child, make plans to leave your fiance. He’s not good for you and not good for any future children you may want to have.
The jaw surgery is a non-issue. If you decide to keep the baby, you can reschedule. What a terrible reason to consider aborting.
Get the abortion and dump the boyfriend
why is adoption out of the question when murder isn’t you selfish meager human being
i wish your mother aborted you
Maybe you should read all of the “details inside” and ask yourself why your having sex with this guy! Then your going to take it out on the baby and abort it… How is adoption out of the question? No just have the baby and then put him/her into the hands of an adoption agency so he or she will atleast have a decent future.
Oh and Due 1-27-2010 Baby Girl Marley, you made my day